MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP...Part 3

1. The real strength of a man lies in his ability to hear, listen and deal positively with whatsoever is communicated. Pro 12 :8

2. Don’t allow your upbringing to destroy the acceptable biblical principles for a better marital relationship. BE OPEN TO LEARNING BETTER WAY

3. There are errors in the system and traditions of men; don’t be a victim. Marriage calls for mutual submission in the fear of the Lord. Husbands and wives must submit to one another in love. Ephes 5:21

4. Power, sex and money can intoxicate but the fear of the Lord nullifies their sting. So under whose control are you? Job 31:1-end

5. Take the unholy thing (pre-marital or extra-marital sex) out of that relationship and the equation will be balanced. Fear of God + Undefilement = TRUST AND PEACE. 1Cor 6:15-20

6. In marriage, have somebody you are both accountable to (Your Pastor or your mentor). Isolation kills because it makes the vulnerable caged.

7. Husband/wife, do not live irresponsibly see a counselor with your spouse if you have to. Your marriage is worth fighting for.

8. Wives, Beijing declaration was not and is not a substitute for the Bible. Refuse to be influenced by ungodly standards.

9. There has never been any prize or Nobel award for sexual immorality. All you can get are scars and wounds.

10. Anybody who is not interested in your dreams and purpose should not be accepted in marriage; otherwise, your destiny will be amputated. Amos 3:3

MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP...Part 2

1. Nakedness is sacred, do not profane it. Fashion should be relevant, appropriate, proper, decent and fitting. Dress properly, not skimpily or seductively. 1Peter 3:3-5

2. Husbands, your wife’s breast are supposed to satisfy you. The society may accept extra- marital affair, mostly, when there appears to be cogent reasons for such. But remember the standards of God stands forever. SO, STAND OUT AND BE A STANDARD. 2 Cor 6:17-18; Pro 5:18-19; Heb 13:4

3. Do not treat your spouses as if they were inconsequential. To you, such may not amount to anything, but to God; they are jewels of inestimable value. Treat your spouse the way you want him/her to treat you. Eph 5:2

4. To a man, love is spelt R-E-S-P-E-C-T but to a woman; it is spelt A-F-F-E-C-T-I-O-N. Be sure you spell yours correctly. Ephe 5:21,25; Col 3:18-19

5. Communication is to any relationship/marriage what food is to the body. Learn the skill of effective communication for your marriage to be nourished. Col 13:8-9

6. The first Adam did not raise his voice when he was supposed to. The last Adam (Jesus) took time talking with people and his disciples. Men should avoid unnecessary silence; it has destroyed many marriages and homes. Communicate your feelings and desires. LEARN TO TALK POSITIVELY. Gen 3:1-6; Isa 50:4

7. Learn to take responsibility for your actions; don’t cultivate the attitude of blame transfer. It has never helped or worked. Confront your issues and deal with them. Gen 3:12-13

8. The secret to a man’s heart is not only in food but in the trust worthiness of the wife and the availability of her laps for him to rest his head on even when his has “BLOWN” it. Judges 16:19a

9. Spouses should not indulge in unnecessary complaints and comparison. Be wise in your dealings.

10. Men, headship in marriage involve the ability to let your wife express her feelings, emotions, thoughts and ideas completely without intimidation.

MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP

1. God called Abraham and made a covenant with him. That covenant is still binding today. Marriage is a life-long covenant, see it that way as a child of God because your father is a covenant keeping God. Genesis 12:1-3,15:1-21

2. Life’s deepest meaning is not found in Life’s accomplishment, but in valued RELATIONSHIPS. Treasure the relationship between you and your spouse. Genesis 29:20

3. When you treat your spouse as an object (e.g. door mat) it shows you have no value for treasure. Your spouse is a gift from God in spite of. For a positive change, treat him/her spouse with respect. Mal 2:13-15
4. Love is not a feeling or sensation in our emotion; it is a choice, an attitude with appropriate behavior. So do not love your spouse based on your feelings, rather as a CHOICE.1Jh 3:1

5. In addition to praying and studying the Bible together. Couples who want to rekindle their fire of love should do some things regularly together e.g. picnicking, visiting, fishing, jogging. Rekindle the fire, don’t let it die. Ephesians 6:8

6. It takes commitment to keep a relationship. When you enter into one, be committed to keeping it. Gen 29:18, 20

7. Harshness, nagging, negative criticism, nit-picking and ridiculing are termites that destroy the soul of marriage. Watch how and what you say to your spouse. Pro 15:23.

8. Words hurt or heal
Words tear down or build up.
Words criticize or compliment.
Words express harshness or kindness.
Words speak truth or lies.
What words are you speaking? Pro 15:1-4

9. Our bodies are temples of God, because His spirit dwells in us. To use our bodies for sexual Immorality is to defile God’s temple. Do not experiment pre-marital sex or extra-marital sex. 1Cor 6:13-20

10. Adultery violates the word of God and brings the wrath of God upon defiant and their descendants. Whatever pleasure you experience from it, is not worth it in the face of eternity. BE CAREFUL. 2 Sam11:2-4; 12:9-12